Here's what will surely be a hot button issue - men wearing lingerie in order to feel feminine. Many of the articles written on the subject of men in lingerie have focused on the reasons for men wearing lingerie being things like the sensation of smooth fabrics against the skin, or simple enjoyment of the look. For some men, this is undoubtedly the reason why they wear lingerie, but for others, it's not. Many men who wear lingerie do so because they like to feel feminine...
More feminine talk follows...
Feeling Feminine In Lingerie
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I don't claim to have all the answers, but I have thought on this issue many times over the years and believe I have a small insight to share.
Have you paid any attention to how children dress? Girls, from very early ages, are dressed and encouraged to dress in anything they want to wear... nothing is out of bounds or over the line. For the most part, boys are allowed to share in this pastime up to about the age of 4-6 years... then the boundaries start to be drawn. Beginning in the school years, girls are free to dress in jeans and t-shirts one day, skirts the next, dresses when they want to be pretty and slacks when they want to be covered. Boys are strongly encouraged to wear what the other boys wear by parents, peers and the social norms at large.
I think this is the genesis of making the wearing of female attire a "guilty pleasure" for men who have some level of feminine traits. In my normal public life I appear as a normal male, reasonably fit for my middle years, conservatively dressed in the norm of my peers... but on 60% of those days I am wearing lingerie of some sort. When I travel on business I sleep in a chemise and panty or camisole set and typically wear full lingerie under my business attire. I do this because it simply makes me feel good, it makes me feel centered, and I truly feel feminine. Of course I know I don't LOOK like the image of femininity, but I feel like I touch some part of my nature that is soft, gentle and calm... traits I associate with females (rightly or wrongly).
Now I don't have the statistics to back up this statement, but I feel pretty sure that a large segment of the male population would really enjoy coming home from work, slipping off the business suit or work jeans and boots and slipping into a nice comfy skirt and t-shirt to work in the yard or just laze around the house. Skirts are one of the most practical garments (and one of the earliest) and for centuries were worn by men and women... I think religious beliefs and Elizabethian social standards changed the habits but I'm not certain why. In any case, in the centuries before the dark ages it was males who wore gowns, robes, and other garments made of silks, satins, and lace... items that are pretty much out of our reach today.
I guess my point can be summed up in the "guilty pleasures" remark above... most women can relate to that concept and should convey how we feminine males approach our dressing.
What do you think?
Mikki - vanfair99@yahoo.com
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